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The Ultimate Guide for Surviving the Holidays with Fibromyalgia and CFS/ME and Chronic Health Issues

Now that elections are over with, and thank goodness for that, it is the season to shift gears and prepare for the holidays.

We have 13 days until Thanksgiving, 30 days until Hanukkah, 46 days until Christmas, 47 days until Kwanzaa, and then New Years. Don't hate me, it's just the facts, scary, I know! (lol)

Sometimes contemplating the Mayan Apocalypse is easier than the thought of all the upcoming holidays. (lol) That, or the sheer terror of deciding which new holiday recipe to try from Pinterest. Fear not, hopefully these survival tips will make the holidays a bit easier.


If you are having the big holiday in your home, do as much as you can in advance, and plan your menu.

  • Side dishes can be made in advance, stored in the freezer, and cooked on the big day.

  • Starting a few days prior helps. Desserts and dishes like stuffing are often better the second day.

  • Think about lightening up some dishes. Mashed potatoes are great with some celery root, just add it to your potatoes. If you want to go over the top, think about adding some bacon, cheese, or green onions to your potatoes. Hello, who doesn't love a twice baked mashed potato casserole.


If you are having a large gathering, delegate, delegate, delegate is the rule, the only rule! This can be difficult, but for those of us who were perfectionists or type-A's, it is necessary with chronic health conditions.

  • Have those friends and family who live nearby, bring a side dish. I like to ask what they would like to bring, but I see nothing wrong in assigning a dish. It helps to follow up with a phone call a few days before, just to confirm and remind them.

  • Who doesn't love some help with cooking and clean up, as my friend Cynthia Ila pointed out, it's just nice to have someone helping out and keeping you company in the kitchen. Clean up is a good time to work on your delegations skills and if all else fails, if you have teen grandchildren, bribe them with dollars, chocolate, or future potential inheritances...whichever works.

Lower Your Expectations

Lowered expectations can help, examine your own expectations about the holidays. And by the way, stop it - yes - stop feeling guilty about what you can no longer do! It is far more important to focus on what you 'can' do.

While everyone loves the Norman Rockwell paintings of the holidays, let me say just one thing - they are fictional characters lol! One thing I love about Rockwell's work, is he does inject a lot of humor into his work, and so must we.

Think about what is most important; it's about being with those you love unconditionally and enjoying the experience. And, if there are any loved ones on 'conditional' terms, just seat them at the kids table!


I like to limit drinks to one cocktail before dinner and wine or beer with the meal. Unless you're the cook, then by all means, sip away! I would actually buy just enough alcohol to make the cocktails, and a bottle of red and white wine. If someone brings wine as a hostess gift...wait and gauge the zoo...I mean the relatives. (lol)

Alcoholic beverages have been know to lead to emotional meltdowns or fights...think Mel don't want to deal with that kind of hot mess. Survival skill of importance, set aside a small bottle of your favorite, as you will probably want to save that wine or toddy for later, after everyone goes home.

Other Things To Remember

  • Forgetting your meds is one thing that's so easy to do. Set a timer, write a note, set the alarm on your cell phone, just try to stay on schedule. One thing I am guilty of is forgetting to eat, so nibble away.

  • If you have low blood sugar, you need protein about every 2-4 hours. This is also a good time to consider water soluble vitamins, they offer rapid delivery, will keep you hydrated, and help with your energy levels.

  • If you are starting out your day with aches, think about taking a soak with some Epsom Salts to start your day. Depending on your pain levels, a dose of Vitamin D. Milk Thistle, and Magnesium may be in order.

  • Take frequent breaks, with large family gatherings, sensory overload can hit us hard. You have Aunt Marge's perfume, the house is all lit up with light, the noise volume from conversation goes up (another reason to limit the alcohol.) If you find yourself feeling those sensations, just go step outside for a few minutes and take a few deep breaths. Shifting perspective and focusing on nature has it's rewards.

Just this morning, I was watching the squirrels running around the trees as it was trying to snow. There is a small and narrow window frame out back, setting on a block, so